1.)
There are no quick answers.
Accept the fact that there are no quick or easy answers or cures
to an eating disorder. Psychotherapists and physicians cannot
work “magic.” If your loved one/friend is to recovery,
then he or she must make changes in attitudes and behaviors.
2.)
Give up the concept of blaming.
It is not useful or realistic to blame either yourself of the
person with the eating disorder. No one is at fault. It is important
to recognize that recovery is the responsibility of the person
with the eating disorder.
3.)
Talk about non-eating disorder related things.
Develop dialogue with your friend about issues other than food,
weight, appearance and achievement.
4.)
Avoid monitoring behavior.
Eating and weight gain are your loved one’s responsibility.
Such power struggles are“no win” battles and will
only reinforce an adversarial relationship.
5.)
Don’t be overprotective.
Do not attempt to protect him or her by giving them the power
to avoid situations that may be distressing. Experiencing and
dealing with uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings and situations
I part of life and adulthood.
6.)
Take care of yourself.
Provide your loved one with support and encouragement but also
take care yourself.Do not sacrifice yourself for your loved
one/friend. You accomplish nothing except feeling emotionally
drained and resentful. Make time for enjoyable activities and
fun – it sends an important message to the sufferer and
give the family/friends needed relief
7.)
Listen.
Listen without judgment, even to things that seem hard to understand
or comprehend. Simply being there and willing to listen will
show your friend that you support her can help her move toward
recovery.
